Declare. A powerful word watered down by school prefects and distrusting figures of authority. We think it is just about contraband and erotica. That's just the fringe.
I crave your indulgence to use this post to declare my position on some very important things in my life. They will not carry the same weight for everyone. They certainly aren't for entertainment. They are my words that I will be held to. The best part? There is no fear or hesitation. Just truth.
I am a man (this goes beyond the flesh or general philosophy).
I am heterosexual (I enjoy the company of women and my parts work best with theirs).
I am fallible (to fail is human, to learn from failure is wise, to act on what you learned...this is boldness).
I am meek (that means teachable or ready to learn. It does not mean bitch)
I am a son and a brother (to family within and beyond blood).
I am a father (so far of a girl who mirrors me even at 3 months of age).
I am a creative (to be clear, I use the word with the same gravity I would use my father's first name).
I am a writer before all other things (words have been my companions since I was 3 and they hold more meaning inbetween the lines as a lady's dress holds more underneath).
I am humbled by my work (from Fourth Day to the extraordinary opportunity to post on the Alchemist's corner to Our Own Area cartoons...I still feel privileged rather than proud)
I appreciate the creative efforts of my peers and my betters (it doesn't have to connect with me before I respect your efforts).
I am a believer (the word christian was coined by non-believers to 'box' followers of Christ Jesus.)
I am biased to honesty, to truth (they are not the same thing), and to a mind ready to learn (the other extreme isn't my type of company).
I am inner-directed (the opinions of men are at best speculative as we are all subjective to our individual selves, yet objective to others).
I can't respect criticism that's coloured with destroying other people (it is always easier to hurt than to heal).
I will not judge another person (it is like criticising a war veteran who had to kill. He did the best he could with what he knew. Hindsight is not incriminating evidence. War criminals are not in the same class).
I will not respect any person who hates (there are few exceptions as very often those who think they hate shrink back in the face of the real thing).
I am loyal (but not a fool. People quit on people in places where promises of future gain cannot reach).
I am kind, not nice (I'd rather admit I can't help than say I can and not follow through).
I am a lone wolf (perhaps this is what makes marriage difficult for me to enter into. I hate being tested. I know the other person will fail & I can't bend or break that part of me).
I am loving (every one farts, but that's not the basis for relevance is it? No one is totally useless).
I work hard (even if it all comes to ash, having given my best is guaranteed to get back up and give even better).
I am not a baby-daddy (that's a term reserved for men who feel dishonored or cheated by the continuation of life. Such men are right...married or not)
I am a fan of Batman (Superman is cool, if you think the advice of an invulnerable alien carries more weight than the example of the mortal he respects...meh)
I am not a politician (I'm too honest for my own good. I'd be in trouble on my first day).
I am not a pervert (a freak, yes. A pervert however is the darker side that men would rather condemn than understand...basically because they fear to see their reflection in the condemned)
I love music (Roald Dahl said music is a language only the sould understands)
I am done...not done for, just done with this post.
P. S. The girls have fathers, not 'daddies' or 'sperm-donors'.
It is not enough to have a good mind. The main thing is to use it well -- Rene Descartes